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BDSM

What is BDSM?

BDSM is the abbreviation of Bondage, Discipline (or domination), Sadism, and Masochism. Many people consider BDSM perverted, dehumanizing, or worse. But Michael Castleman explain that BDSM lovers call it the most loving, nurturing, intimate form of human contact and play. People can have sex without conversation, negotiation, or any emotional connection. But in BDSM, the players always arrange things in advance with clear, intimate communication, which creates a special erotic bond.

Bondage & Discipline: This part of the acronym refers to practices that involve physical restraint for inflicting punishment, pain or humiliation.

Dominance & Submission: This subset of BDSM involves the submission of one person to another; the dominant. This involves a variety of rituals, tasks, and behaviors.

Sadism & Masochism: Also sometimes put together as Sadomasochism, these two practices are opposites of each other. Sadism refers to those who receive pleasure by inflicting pain on others and masochism refers to those who enjoy receiving the pain for pleasurable release.

BDSM is not spontaneous and violent

Mutual consent, trust, and negotiation are hallmarks of the BDSM lifestyle. Most will meet potential partners before “playing together” to discuss personal boundaries, any health conditions they might have, and safe words, to ensure that a “scene” (or encounter) will be both fulfilling and safe. Any use of control or infliction of pain is within the context of fantasy, including the role-playing of nonconsensual sex.

BDSM not always involves some form of sexual contact

Orgasm during a scene is not always necessary for sexual gratification. Usually submissive men enjoy being humiliated by being whipped by his Dominatrix and listening repeatedly that they have a small penis. “Sex” for them do not involve any physical contact with her. Gratification arrive in the form of going home after the scene ended to masturbate while replaying these events in his mind.

BDSM practices

There are a lot of BDSM practices, but below I will only explain what I like to do when I sometimes have sessions for fun…(you can check also about me).

  • Financial Domination (FinDom).
  • Adoration or Body worship is any practice of physically revering a part of another person’s body.
  • Sado is an acronym for sadism, which is the obtaining of pleasure by performing acts of cruelty or domination.
  • Bondage is a practice based on the immobilization of a person’s body. The ties can be made on a part of the body or in its entirety, using ropes, tapes, fabrics, chains, handcuffs or any other element that can serve as an immobilizer.
  • Chastity. The submissive cannot have sex or ejaculate without his Dominatrix allowing it, it is also possible to use various elements to ensure chastity and sexual control of the slave.
  • Sensory deprivation, restraints is total or partial restriction of stimuli of one or more of the senses.
  • Play with nipples – Pinching.
  • Impact games: Spanking, the practice of hitting the buttocks with the hand or any other element, can occur at different levels of intensity. Flogging is when the Dominant uses a multi-tailed whip to strike in a swinging motion, often times rhythmically. The material that the flogger is made of varies as much as the sensation. Caning. The dominant repeatedly strikes the submissive with a long flexible cane, usually on the buttocks. The idea behind caning is not to hurt the submissive but to straddle the line between pleasure and pain., Spitting. Trampling it’s about stepping or walking on the slave’s body, with or without shoes. Crushing, a crushing fetish refers to being sexually aroused when seeing, experiencing, or performing the act of crushing. Generally, this is done involving bugs, invertebrates, inanimate objects, cigarettes, and the like. Someone with this fetish may also get excited when being crushed by someone else. Ballbusting is a practice based on striking the genital apparatus, receiving the name “ballbusting” or “cuntbusting”, depending on whether he or she is the recipient of the blow, Pony-boy, as its name suggests, is the dominant riding the slave like a pony. Slapping. Whipping. A whip is a long, thin leather element that is often used to inflict pain/pleasure upon a partner.  Facesitting is a practice in which the Dominatrix sits with lingerie, presses or rubs her buttocks on the slave’s face, frontally or inversely, but does not allow oral or anal sexual contact. Gagging .
  • Temperature games (wax, ice, metal …).
  • Genital torture (CBT / geni-torture). In any way the Dominatrix wants.
  • Bladder Control, sometimes the Dominatrix will keep control for a certain period in front of the slave’s bladder, being only she who authorizes the submissive to go to the bathroom.
  • Orgasm Control. The slave can only ejaculate and have orgasm when, where, how and in the conditions that the Domina disposes. The rest of the time you must keep chastity.
  • Humiliation is the consensual psychological humiliation performed to produce erotic arousal or sexual arousal. This can be either for the person being humiliated or degraded or for the person humiliating them, or both.
  • Interrogation. An interrogation scene, in the context of BDSM role play, occurs when a dominant partner takes on the role of the torturer, while the submissive participant plays the victim. The torturer may use physical pain, threats, humiliation and other techniques to extract information from their victim, just like in a real-life torture scenario.An interrogation scene ends once the victim has broken down and shared the information they possess. The length of the scene and the intensity of the torture leading up to this moment depends on the players.
  • Manipulation.
  • Blackmail. The fetishism of blackmail brings the slave into greater submission, since it forces the submissive to pay tax to his Mistress under the risk that if he does not She will use sensitive information (mail from his boss, from his wife, etc.) to send and/or publish humiliating photos. Many times there is a blackmail contract, so the Domina is legally covered.
  • Role play / Voice play.
  • Forniphilia. In this practice, the body of slave is used as a piece of furniture, lamp, tray, stool, chair, table, ashtray, wardrobe or other element.
  • Foot Fetishism, also called podophilia, is a pronounced fetishistic interest in human feet. It is one of the most common fetishisms in males.
  • Feminization, also known as “sissification“, refers to the practice of dressing a male submissive as a woman and/or encouraging or training them to act in a feminine or exaggeratedly feminine (“hyperfeminine”) manner.
  • Misophilia is a broad term that also involves other fetishistic practices such as urolagnia (attraction/taste for urine), emethophilia (is the sexual arousal from vomiting, or watching others vomit. It is sometimes referred to as a Rainbow, and the fetish is considered a paraphilia), Menstruophilia or Menophilia (fetish where a straight man, bisexual man/woman, or lesbian is turned on by a woman’s menstrual blood.) , interaction with mud, soiled clothing and personal hygiene products. The practice of misophilia can range from simple observation to the ingestion of certain substances discarded by the human organism, and it is also possible that people with misophilia can be sexually stimulated by dirty places.
  • … and my favorites … Butt plug, inserts and Pegging.